Teaching Co-opeartion is what we actually need!!

If someone advocates that teaching Competitive spirit is more important than cooperation and team work , as in the world today everyone thinks that you need to be competitive enough than I would OPPOSE this belief. I see it as a short term vision story. Basically it just speaks up for the early stages of a child's life and that too to a very small extent. But if we talk about it in a long term than I would say that Cooperation is much more important than competition.
For Example: When you join an organisation than no management would like the employees to compete among themselves and thus have hard feelings for each other's success rather they would appreciate and long for a collaborative , cooperative team spirit to be present in all of its employees.
Here is when the problem arises now , a child who has been taught the virtues of competition since childhood is not at all able to work in cooperation with others and thus often lacks the team spirit . Then the organizations arranges team work training programs for them. After attending those trainings they try to follow it for some days but than 95 % of them come back to their childhood old lessons of competition. Such situation thus becomes very difficult to overcome both for the employee as well as the employer.
Now you only tell me is it right? Is it the way it sholud be going? It is obviously difficult to change a habit you have been following since 18-20 years , untill and unless someone wants to do it from within by self realization and self awakening . There is no other way to bring a change at this stage of a person's life. And the percentage of such people would be very small.

So the best possible and sane method to solve this problem is the awakening that a child needs to be taught the right lessons of cooperation since form the early stages of his/her life. We need to be clear on what we want from them when they grow up and teach them that only since the very beginning. If we do not teach right virtues to them how can we expect that they will follow what they don't know.
Children need to be taught that there is abundance of everything in this universe and they need not compete to achieve or get something. With cooperation they can get better results and make long lasting relationships as well. When they think this way then abundance will flow into their lives automatically. They need to be told that the only competition they have is with themselves so that they run their own race . As has been righty said " True nobility does not lie in being superior to others , it lies in being superior to your former self ."

EDUCATE THE EDUCATOR !!!!

Today as the value system, habits and behavior of kids is changing, we have to find out what is the reason for this and how it can be corrected.
Feeling of love, respect for others dignity, freedom to express and follow your dreams, patience, warmth, using the power of now ,connection with the soul etc is just some alien thoughts for them and will be more so in the generations to come . It is the education of the child which sets the foundation for all this , so if these qualities are absent or say vanishing than the biggest role played is by the education of the individual right from when he was a small kid. Setting up a wrong foundation gives destructive results which the world is facing in the present and will face in the future as well.

Now when we know the problem and the cause for it than the next thing to be done is to find a solution for the same. The solution is simple but as it happens always , simple things are never seen and often neglected . It is clear that to set up right values, ethics, habits and intelligence in the kids it is very essential that the education has to be appropriate and correct in every aspect . The right kind of education begins with the educator , who must understand himself , for what he is , that he imparts. If he has not been rightly educated, what can he teach except the same mechanical knowledge on which he himself has been brought up? The problem, thus is not the child but the parent and the teacher. So the prime need of the hour is to EDUCATE THE EDUCATORS of the world. The educators have to realize that the future depends on them and their power , understanding to teach the right things in the right manner at the best time in a child’s growth cycle is really important . It is very essential to teach them the right ways they have to follow to impart good valuable education to the kids.

When the educators were kids wrong education system and procedures have made them faulty themselves, so first they have to be educated to bring them in a different mould and simultaneously break that mould in which they were casted when they were small kids. This is relevantly difficult to do than to make a right mould for a child right from the very beginning. Because most of us are already crystallized within a system of thought or a pattern of action, we have already given ourselves to some ideology, to a religion or to a particular standard of conduct. That is why we teach the child what to think and not how to think. We are not deeply aware of ourselves, our thoughts and feelings are stereotyped, automatic. We learn a few subjects, gather some information and then try to pass it on to the children. If we educate the educators in the right way then it is inevitable that the education and foundation of the kids whome they will teach will automatically be corrected.

If the educator is to help the student to examine and understand the values and influences that surround him and of which he is a part, must not he be aware of them himself?
If one is blind , can one help others to cross to the other shore???

The child is influenced by the people and the things about him, and the right kind of educator should help him to uncover these influences and their true worth. Merely to follow a system whether political or educational will not solve any purpose for the educators, they have to be awakened that they need to break those boundaries created around them and feel the importance of their roles as educators in this world. So the prime need of the hour is to EDUCATE THE EDUACTOR!!!

The BEST AND THE ONLY WAY to teach a child is to set an EXAMPLE .

“Children are like wet cement , whatever falls on them makes an Impression.”

This is a very famous quote which we often come across but do we really understand it well. If we do then why do we set wrong examples for kids everyday for them to watch and imitate the same.
"If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves" - C. G. Jung
If we want to teach and inculcate good habits, behaviors, values, ethics and manners in our kids then why do we always forget that it is us who have to first do the same. Children in their early years are excellent observers and they try to imitate each and every thing they see around them. If you smile in front of a kid then it is inevitable that you will get a smile back.

We have to be really cautious that we do not teach them wrong things by setting up a wrong example. We often get angry with the kids when they start telling lies to us but in this course we forget that we only taught them to lie when they were young and we told them various small lies which were quite insignificant at that time. But the realization that those small and unimportant lies will have a profound effect on the child’s future , this we are unable to see. Often the small unnoticeable things are neglected by us which really effect a child’s overall personality.

If for example, you want your child to eat green leafy vegetables and he/she doesn’t like eating it , so what do you do? Well you bribe the child that if he eats it then you will go to the park with him/her in the evening. The child becomes happy and your trick works. He eats the vegetable. Then in the evening the child was all excited to go to the park but then you remembered that you have to go to meet your friend and so turns off the child’s excitation by saying to him that you will go tomorrow with him for sure.
Now here you have taught three wrong lessons to him with this small instance ie.
First of all to teach him giving bribes by telling him to eat vegetables in return for going to park and thus making him realize that there are conditions joined with what he wants .
Second teaching him to break his commitments and that promises are not important by not going with him to the park.
And lastly the act of procrastination by promising him again to go the next day.

You might be thinking what this small instance have a effect in the long run but let me remind you that children are very quick learners and will definitely remember these instances in future as well and then will act in the same way while dealing with others and thus will have a lasting effect on their overall personality and values system. So we have to be really cautious about what we do , say and how we act with them.

Also remember one golden rule that - while teaching a child anything, do not insult him/her. No reprimands in public or in the presence of friends. Children are entitled to their dignity too. If a mistake has been made, wait until you are alone with the child and then gently correct him/her.
Teach him the importance of giving respect to others by giving the same to him. But teaching by example goes beyond how we treat our children. It has to do with how we treat others as adults, how we treat and talk about others outside the family. It has to do with how we lead our lives. Think back to how your own parents influenced your moral development by the examples they set.

You can demonstrate that it is much more fun to share joys and toys, by sharing what you treasure. You can train a child to show respect to elders by treating your own elders with the utmost respect. You can help a child imbibe the value of education by continuing your own learning process, or taking up some course of study.
Building up ‘good qualities’ is never easy. But the best, and perhaps the only, way to teach a child anything is to set an example.

When a child is born , he is innocent, loving, affectionate, courteous, calm, forgiving, confident ,selfless, serene and willing to help everyone but we hamper his these in born qualities by doing wrong cruel things in front of him and setting up wrong examples. But now it is high time and we have to change NOW . For the time is Now And only NOW !!