MaGIC of SMILE ... :)

" A smile is a language that even a baby understands."

Smile do wonders which nothing else in this world can do. One day bored from my usual day routine I went to the near by park for a walk. I was a bit sad and upset . Suddenly as I was walking a sweet young kid came to me and gave me an innnocent smile . I don't know what happened but that one smile lifted up my mood and I could not resist but smile back at him. It was then I realized that how can a smile change everything. As soon as I realized this fact , all good things started coming to me and I was getting more smiles . Then my body language , mood, feelings everything suddenly started changing . I could feel happiness in everything. All negative thoughts started withering away. There were other people in the park . I even passed a smile to some of them and when they responded back I felt even better.

I started enjoying my walk , played with the kids there , watch them have fun . An old lady was sitting on a bench alone a bit frustrated , I asked her if I can sit beside her . Talked to her for some while and gave her the same smile which inspired me . And guess what that old lady hugged me and started smiling. And yes we are very good friends now and whenever she feels lonely she talk to me and we laugh and laugh together.
I can never forget that moment in my life as this was the day I realized the TRUE MAGIC OF SMILE ... The wonders it can bring ...

I have realized it completely that the more you feel good, the more you smile , the more it comes to you. When you smile and spread happiness around you then God gives you even more instances to smile and have fun in your life. From that day onwards I get solutions to most of my problems as now I don't get sad , I smile and calmly look for the answers rather than focussing on the problems .
I feel grateful for what I have now. As said in all spiritual books , that when you begin to think about all the things in your life you are grateful for , you will be amazed at the never ending thoughts that come back to you of more things to be grateful for.

"Some people are too tired to give you a smile , so give them one of yours as no one needs a smile as much as the one who has no more to give. "

When you will bring smile and happiness to someone's life then believe me the happiness you will receive in return will be so satisfying. There is no great satisfaction and peace than bringing joy and smile in someone'e life . Try it and you will understand what I want to convey. May God bring loads of Smiles in everyone's life !!! :)

Now take the second step ... Practice Forgiveness ..

"To forgive is the highest , most beautiful form of love . In return , you will receive untold peace and happiness."
It is very true that the day we learn to forgive ourselves and others ,than we can be free of many bad feelings in our past and can enjoy the present with more warmth, happiness and positiveness. There is no point of being angry for what someone has done to you rather we should just forgive and move forward.
Forgiveness is the highest form of love you can bring to this world. We never realize that when we don't forgive , the person we are hurting or troubling the most is ourselves . If you have a friend who has done something really annoying and bad .You choose not to forgive him for what he has done to you then just think who is suffering the most in this case?? No doubt your friend would feel bad about it but what about you ? Are you happy being angry with him? Are you happy being frustrated and upset? Are you happy holding negative vibes in yourself ? Are you happy being stuck in your past which can not be changed now? The answer to all this is that ofcourse it does not make you happy . Just think about it what all happens to you when you are angry and holding some resentment in your mind . By not forgiving you are holding those bad memories with you, cursing the other person or yourself for whatever happened, feeling bad all the time thinking about past which cannot be changed now , making your present suffer for whatever happend in the past, creating health problems also and all your peace and harmony is lost.

Now just think what will happen if you forgive and let go all the negativity . You will feel happy, free from your past , you could enjoy your present in much more productive way , will not have negative thoughts going around , better health , more positive will come in your life , and most important you will have peace of mind .

Forgiveness is the trait of stronger people. You will yourself realize that you feel so great by performing this simple gesture to forgive. When we do not flow freely with life in the present moment , it usually means we are holding on to a past moment. It can be sadness, regret, hurt, fear, blame,anger,resentment and sometimes even the desire for revenge. Each one of this comes from the state of unforgiveness , a refusal to live in the present.

I am not saying that past has no role to play in your life, if you have a bad feeling in your past due to anything then just take it as a lesson , no experience is bad there are only lessons . So just learn from it , practice forgiveness for the cause of it and move forward. Thats the path to happiness and peace. Try it and you will know the power in forgiveness as it leads to a happier and prosperous life.
I have followed it and have seen personally that how this simple gesture has made my life so easy and happy .
:)

It's Patience we need !!

We need patience always and everywhere.

When we sit hard at our problems and sums
It's patience we need.
When we find words that are hard to the mind
It's patience we need.
When we lose in a game which we play well
It's patience we need.
When we work willingly, yet they speak ill
It's patience we need.
When we have nuts to crack, but they slip off
It's patience we need.
When we want a solution and not getting it
It's patience we need.
When we talk, listen , write or read
It's patience we need.
When we have sins to be rubbed off our soul
It's patience we need.
When we love someone
It's patience we need.
When we think, or we play or we do things
It's patience we need.
"A little more patience in trouble and pain,
A little less willing at times to complain,
A little more kindness by you and by me,
And oh, how wonderful this world would be !! "

Patience ---- the First step....

' How much patience God has with us!! Should we become annoyed because it seems to us that someone is not correcting himself immediately? We are so demanding with others because we do not know ourselves down to the very depths.' ---- James Alberione

I came across these words and realized it to be so true. Just imagine how many times we as individuals have done wrong things, that could be so annoying to God but still he shows PATIENCE.
Similarly, when we deal with our kids patience is the first and foremost thing needed . It is very important to be humble , meek and kind to them. Children are in the crucial learning phase of their lives . Just imagine how can a little child learn to walk if he is being scolded on taking the first steps while he is just learning. As I said in the earlier post that children learn by immitating their adults so it is our prime responsibility to inculcate patience in them.
Homes are often destroyed by the swirling tornadoes of heated domestic anger. Many families are shattered by lack of patience of
husband with wife
wife with husband
parents with children
children with parents

A child was hearing about war and asked his father how it started. The father patiently sat down and started to explain:
"Suppose America quarelled with England......."
The mother jumped up & interrupted:
"But England & America are not quarelling."
Father: I know , but this is just an example.
Mother: You are misleading the child.
Father: No, I am not.
Mother: Yes, You are.
Father: I tell you, I'm not . It's an.....
Child: Never mind , Dad. I think I understand now.

Do not allow the high tension & pressure of office work or family duties make you forget the prime duty towards kids.
All children are inquisitive. They have bundle of questions which we can't find answers for. I have often heard people saying to kids , "Oh my God!! You are a question mark kid". Parents need amounts of patience in dealing with children. Whenever you get upset with a kid, just remember these years of his life are his real foundation and it is you who have to set it right. It is not always easy to show patience towards your kids when they tend to disturb us and interfere with our accomplishments. It requires Maturity and love.

Both in home as well as outside , if you love others you will need less patience.
Remember , a family where father and mother never agree is built on shifting sands.
After Mary and Joe ( married couple) had their first quarrel, his father-in-law said boastfully, "Everytime my wife and I had an argument, I have the last word."
Not knowing was he serious or not , Joe asked " but how?"
"It's Simple, " he smiled , "I apologise !!!"
All that is needed is understanding, then patience will come by itself.

Build the Foundation NOW !!!

One of my very good friend was sitting with her brother really worried about him. He is just 12 years of age and the level of his anger , irritation and unhappiness is really high. She made every possible bit of effort to make him understand that he should remain calm , patient and happy . She talked to him for about an hour and at the end thought that she have done her part and he has really understood. She went back to sleep feeling happy for him. Then in the morning when they were having their breakfast , she saw the same unhappiness in him again . Then she got upset as to why is he not understanding what she wants to tell him. The same day they had a talk and she made this second attempt to help him out. She was happy that she handled the situation nicely and he has now understood. The next day passed out fine .Then after about two days the same thing happened and he was very upset . Now she got really frustrated as to what is his problem , she asked me why the hell he is not getting things. I still remember that day , when after talking to me she decided to talk to him again , while she was talking to him (considering the things I told her) suddenly certain things started coming in her mind, she could feel some reasons for all this to happen. For some days she thought about the reasons which were coming in her mind and then she got the real problem.

Well if you have a child who has certain habits that upset or irritates you , I will guarantee that they are your habits. Children learn by imitating their adults who are always with them. It’s a very common thing that we usually have certain complaints about our children , we start giving them lectures and all but we never try to figure out the reasons for that behavior. The truth is that when we are little we learn how to feel about ourselves and about life by the reactions of the adults around us.
If a child is grown up by seeing his parents fighting all the time at home, abusing each other rather than respecting each other’s feeling , then what do u expect from your child???

If you have complaints with him all the time saying that he is not worthy enough , than what do u expect will happen to your child’s self confidence and self approval???

If you always show irritating, angry reactions to him than how can you expect your child to be calm , polite and at peace???

Self approval and self acceptance in the now are most important to bring positive changes in your life , however if your behavior and attitude towards your child is not right than he will never have these virtues in his personality . Whatever degree or education he gets but until and unless his BASIC FOUNDATION is weak he will never be successful professionally and personally.

We in the present are highly responsible for the future of the kids . It is our prime responsibility that we build a strong foundation for them so that they move to the highest peaks. We need to understand that in order to inculcate positive habits and attitude in our kids , first we need to implement the same. We cant teach them what we don’t follow ourselves. My friend made the same mistake with her brother , she used to give him lectures about not to get angry but then when she looked back upon her own behavior she realized that she herself is not at all calm. She used to shout at him all the time , always have complaints about one thing or the other , she even used to talk badly with her parents sometimes and much more . And then the other day she was giving him lectures not to do the same . Thus behaving in exactly the manner we all do . How could we even think that it will work… She realized that untill an unless she change herself she wont be able to change him.

We need to be really cautious of our behavior specially in front of our kids. We can make them great individuals if we nurture them in the right way . There are many aspects which we need to take care of : like being positive , teaching them the significance of patience in their lives , being loving with everyone in the family so that they also behave in the same way and much more… this would just be a beginning to make them much more responsible and loving human beings.

Parents usually have a notion that if a kid is doing great in academics than for sure he has a bright future . No doubt academics are essential to move forward in life and to attain our goal but the actual reality is that it is NOT the ONLY thing. With the academic qualification and intelligence it is very important to have the right attitude towards life, have good moral values , loving character , respect for each individual in this world etc etc and its for sure that these qualities can be inculcated only in the childhood . And if we do this now then just imagine what a prosperous, happy and fulfilling life the children will have in the future. That’s the only reason why Strong foundation is a must . So please take this first step for the kids , change yourself and build their foundation. My friend did !!