Build the Foundation NOW !!!

One of my very good friend was sitting with her brother really worried about him. He is just 12 years of age and the level of his anger , irritation and unhappiness is really high. She made every possible bit of effort to make him understand that he should remain calm , patient and happy . She talked to him for about an hour and at the end thought that she have done her part and he has really understood. She went back to sleep feeling happy for him. Then in the morning when they were having their breakfast , she saw the same unhappiness in him again . Then she got upset as to why is he not understanding what she wants to tell him. The same day they had a talk and she made this second attempt to help him out. She was happy that she handled the situation nicely and he has now understood. The next day passed out fine .Then after about two days the same thing happened and he was very upset . Now she got really frustrated as to what is his problem , she asked me why the hell he is not getting things. I still remember that day , when after talking to me she decided to talk to him again , while she was talking to him (considering the things I told her) suddenly certain things started coming in her mind, she could feel some reasons for all this to happen. For some days she thought about the reasons which were coming in her mind and then she got the real problem.

Well if you have a child who has certain habits that upset or irritates you , I will guarantee that they are your habits. Children learn by imitating their adults who are always with them. It’s a very common thing that we usually have certain complaints about our children , we start giving them lectures and all but we never try to figure out the reasons for that behavior. The truth is that when we are little we learn how to feel about ourselves and about life by the reactions of the adults around us.
If a child is grown up by seeing his parents fighting all the time at home, abusing each other rather than respecting each other’s feeling , then what do u expect from your child???

If you have complaints with him all the time saying that he is not worthy enough , than what do u expect will happen to your child’s self confidence and self approval???

If you always show irritating, angry reactions to him than how can you expect your child to be calm , polite and at peace???

Self approval and self acceptance in the now are most important to bring positive changes in your life , however if your behavior and attitude towards your child is not right than he will never have these virtues in his personality . Whatever degree or education he gets but until and unless his BASIC FOUNDATION is weak he will never be successful professionally and personally.

We in the present are highly responsible for the future of the kids . It is our prime responsibility that we build a strong foundation for them so that they move to the highest peaks. We need to understand that in order to inculcate positive habits and attitude in our kids , first we need to implement the same. We cant teach them what we don’t follow ourselves. My friend made the same mistake with her brother , she used to give him lectures about not to get angry but then when she looked back upon her own behavior she realized that she herself is not at all calm. She used to shout at him all the time , always have complaints about one thing or the other , she even used to talk badly with her parents sometimes and much more . And then the other day she was giving him lectures not to do the same . Thus behaving in exactly the manner we all do . How could we even think that it will work… She realized that untill an unless she change herself she wont be able to change him.

We need to be really cautious of our behavior specially in front of our kids. We can make them great individuals if we nurture them in the right way . There are many aspects which we need to take care of : like being positive , teaching them the significance of patience in their lives , being loving with everyone in the family so that they also behave in the same way and much more… this would just be a beginning to make them much more responsible and loving human beings.

Parents usually have a notion that if a kid is doing great in academics than for sure he has a bright future . No doubt academics are essential to move forward in life and to attain our goal but the actual reality is that it is NOT the ONLY thing. With the academic qualification and intelligence it is very important to have the right attitude towards life, have good moral values , loving character , respect for each individual in this world etc etc and its for sure that these qualities can be inculcated only in the childhood . And if we do this now then just imagine what a prosperous, happy and fulfilling life the children will have in the future. That’s the only reason why Strong foundation is a must . So please take this first step for the kids , change yourself and build their foundation. My friend did !!